Like many of us, I have had my share of photo dating. And also like many of us, I have had more than I’d care to admit was my share of mismatches that is, the photos and the men didn’t match. The wedding groomsman in the tux, with the beautifully groomed profile (of face and head, not dating profile, that is) became a beer-bellied toothless guy with thinning hair evidently a well-meaning dude who was using a twenty year old photo. The studly, toned hunk in poolside trunks became a 400-pound truck driver who hadn’t seen sunlight for as many years as that photo was old. And the many pics of models, cowboys, weightlifters whom I didn’t even bother meeting we obviously cutouts of magazine dreams. Now, I know we all change, so I am not bashing the fact that Freddy Krueger is hairless when in his picture he was Samson. But I also know we have access to such inexpensive technology that an updated photo on one’s photo dating profile page is not asking for much. In fact, it is okay to expect an updated photo and honest answers about the photo, for it is that very picture that we visual people need to make decisions on before we get the best of all opportunities meeting in person, smelling their smells, observing their movements and gestures in real time.