While putting together this article, I recalled a documentary showing men who preferred Russian dating, men who hoped for marrying Russian women. I was moved by the lonely and desperate searches of both the American men who wanted the women they were corresponding with to be their future brides and the Russian women who wanted just as much for the relationships to work. My heart went out to them as it does to all who are lonely, sad, alone, and seeking a soul mate. Then I found a website featuring letters that centered on the topic of Russian dating in general and on, specifically, our misinformed attitudes about Russian women coming to the U.S. and “taking” “our” men.
I was appalled and embarrassed for those of us with thinking so distorted that we believe our men should only marry our women–when in fact our men were not being snatched up by us, were terribly alone and lonely because of our neglect, and had, therefore, every right to travel to any damned countries they pleased and marry any lovely women they pleased!
But on this unfair, imbalanced approach to Russian dating, someone else says it better than I. Natasha Butsenina writes, “The longer we live abroad, the more we interact with local women and the better judgments we make, [and] our experience teaches us that there are no ‘bad women’ and ‘good women’. There are just women, with different characters, with different tempers, with different values and morals. American women can be career-oriented as well as family-oriented. They can be superficial and arrogant, as well as deep and sincere, nasty and rude, as well as kind and compassionate… Just like we [can be]. Just like any women….” Enough said.
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