A new beginning. God had six days. Practically speaking, rebuilding your dating life really only gives you one working week: five days. Studies have shown that behaviors become fixed, or broken, by the choices you make in the first five days.
When roads were a new thing, the story goes, there was a problem with ruts getting carved into them. So the sign on the road to Austin, Texas, many miles away, warned drivers of the risk: PICK YOUR RUT CAREFULLY YOU’LL BE IN IT FOR 65 MILES. You may be feeling the bumps of a rutted road ending right now, in this first week after declaring your freedom. The best secret is to break out of your old ruts, now, in this first week, or you may be stuck there for a very long time. One of the ruts, though, you shouldn’t try (or might just be unable) to escape is finding a relationship right there in what you might begin to think of as your sandbox: work, friends, relations, and stomping grounds.
For example, I can’t tell you all about the many times I personally knew of an attorney who won the intimate affections of his client in a divorce case. One attorney was often teased about always sending a big bill to his clients. Yes, his name was Bill. A few attorneys in my small town have divorced their own wives (or in one case, her husband) for their divorcee client. A case of the client or the egg on the attorney’s face.
The reality is that most people find dates in their most emotional nests. That translates into work, churches (gasp!), or organic grocery stores. In the bok choy section, I’ve heard. Not the wine section. People tend to play with others in their own sandboxes.
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